Someone asked me yesterday how I decide
on a topic to write about because my words always seem to synchronise
with where they are at in their life. My answer was quite simply that
each week I choose to write about what I am sitting with in my life
at the time of writing.
I have a list of subjects I want to
write about in case I am ever stuck for something to pour out and pay
forward, but for the most part, either inspiration hits me, or a
process of my own is unfolding and I am remembering the tools and
skills I have learned along the way to navigate my way through it.
This week, I'm in a state of emotional
purging. It always begins the same way: my life is in a wonderful
space and I am building a better and better life for myself daily. I
am dedicated and committed to my personal evolution and being the
best person I can be. I like who I am, respect who I am, and love
myself. I have everything I need and want. I have amazing people in
my life. I am busy and my life is full. I take things in my stride,
come what may.
In the gaps between all the doing and
building of my life, there are moments of silence, where if I stop
doing long enough, I can feel there is pain pushing to come out. I
feel emotionally clogged and foggy if I don't give into the emotional
release that wants to happen. Sometimes I am in a space where I can
allow the emotions to overflow through tears then and there. I allow
myself to feast on my pain and really sob it all out as it comes up.
Other times, when I am extremely busy and need to keep my shit
together to ensure my life is staying on track, I put the feels and
cries away for later. Sometimes I don't get to it for weeks. When
this happens I start to feel disproportionately about many things
that come up. Frustration, irritation at little things.
And so I know to sit to honour the
feels that want to be acknowledged by attempting to drop into them
and embrace them. I know when I've allowed them out, I will feel all
the clearer, brighter, and more present. On this occasion, my
attempts to drop in proved unsuccessful, although I could feel the
pain pushing to come out. Still, there was resistance finding it.
I have experienced what happens next a
few times. When you are filled to the brim and need to make space,
your being forces a purge of what's not serving you anymore. Whether
it's in life or with regards to emotions. I wake up crying and
sobbing like a baby. The emotional excess purges itself while I am
asleep playing out in dream experiences that bring me to tears. I
find the intelligence of our beings to innately organise a purge of
the over flow of energy through our sleep to be remarkable, and fully
believe that not only crying in dreams is our being's way of
regulating release, but also through orgasms during sleep state for
both men and women when our creative energy has filled us to capacity
and we're not consciously allowing it out.
The purging of excess energy and
emotions can be done consciously through exercise, creativity, and a
multitude of self expressions. But when ignored or suppressed, not
only are we in danger of reacting disproportionately to something
that comes up in the moment that isn't all that worthy of the
dramatic scene, but we can run into the obstacle of not making way
for new emotional experiences to flow in because we're still too
clogged with old stuff. The purging needs to happen.
Allow yourself the purges at the
soonest opportunity. Sometimes it lasts five minutes. Other times,
when we've suppressed them for too long, it can last for
weeks/months/years, and can be confused as a chronic depression, when
it actually could be reframed as a decompression. Decompressing from
the pressure of a lifetime of stuck emotions that haven't been
released. I'm not saying depression isn't a thing... I'm just saying,
if the general state of your life is happy, and there's nothing
really wrong, perhaps you just need to purge. It doesn't mean there's
anything wrong, just that a good cry may be needed regardless of
whether you're male or female.
Embracing cycles of purging is also
paramount as part of the emotional work that needs to be done along
the path to your best life. Moving through the tough stuff that
you've kept hidden away for years is going to clear a path to your
most authentic self, should you choose to take your pain and turn it
into something constructive and productive.
While I do teach high frequency living
and choosing an optimistic outlook with higher frequency emotions
being your default, facing your shadow emotions (guilt, shame, and
fears from ages ago now that you're old enough to unpack it
rationally) is going to release you from the prisons of your previous
pains and traumas. This will allow you to process your triggers much
differently, with a better understanding and compassion towards
yourself and situations. From there the path widens to heightened
awareness of how we're choosing to experience the stuff that comes up
in the moment with much less over reactions as a result, once you've
cleared feeling it all out.
So the next time you feel a cry stuck
in you, or a purge wanting to unfold, take yourself to your private
space and allow yourself to be a messy, blubbery human, and sob your
little heart out. It's healthy. I do feel purges are private moments
though so no need to involve everyone or anyone you know. It's your
purge, and not everyone will have the capacity or be available for
something that could be a totally regular and normal self soothing
experience. Our emotions are after all our own responsibility, and
dumping and downloading on others who have their own stuff going on
can lead to co-dependent, unhealthy behaviour. This is also how you
lose your power in the fastest way possible.
Much like phoning a friend to download
the draining experience you just had: you transfer that draining
experience onto whoever you point it toward. There are multiple
practices you can add to your toolkit to get yourself through your
triggers. It doesn't need to become someone else's problem to sit and
listen to.
Purge the energy through an active
meditation... there are so many available on youtube. Osho's 'no
mind' one is one I've used many times to consciously release the
energy of emotionally charged situations instead of transferring the
energy onto a family member or friend.
These are all healthy tools to equip
yourself with to become a more emotionally mature and responsible
human. Let me know if you need any guidance while you're navigating
your purges and releases. I can help you.
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